I
struggle with the fast pace of childhood these days. Everyone is so busy and
always on the go, and when I'm not, I can start to feel like I'm missing out on
something or I must not be doing it right. My kids don't have some kind of
lesson or practice every day of the week and the mom guilt sets in because
everyone else is so busy and looking like they're enjoying it and I must be
selfish because I don't make the time to sign my kids up for everything. But I
get to see the other side of the Instagram and Facebook posts. I see worm out
parents shuffling their kids from daycare to the next activity. I talk to these
parents and they are exhausted from work but they won't get home until 8:30
because they have to get their kids to soccer, swimming, ballet, gymnastics,
basketball, Girl Scouts, Boy Scouts, Awanas and whatever else there is.
Not to mention us parents are trying to be good servants and we want to go to
that small group bible study and that marriage conference, we still want to
bring that dish to the potluck, we want to be a part of our church, we want to
make time for everything. But I've learned to accept and be content in not
being as busy as everyone else. I've had my husband help me in this aspect
because he was constantly saying " we don't need to be busy all the time
or have something every weekend" and I would just be like "that's how
life is, sorry" and then I'd proceed to trying to make it to everything,
bouncing from one thing to the next but I can't do everything and I'm finally
ok with that.
I
started this book by Lysa Turkeurst called " The Best Yes" and it is
awesome! Lysa is honest and open about the struggles of the daily lives of
women and the need to please and be a part of everything. But she focuses on
how our need to please God should take precedent on our need to please others.
And really, we can’t please God if we are so overwhelmed with our busy
schedules and lives. Lysa shows us how to say no with confidence and how to say yes to the best things. "A woman who
lives with the stress of an overwhelmed schedule will often ache with the
sadness of an underwhelmed soul"
My
kids have basketball and Awanas right now and that's enough. It may change from
basketball to something else they like but I'm going to make sure that whatever
it is that commitment does not outweigh our commitment to God and each other.
We spend time together, we eat together, we do devotions and pray together and
we talk to each other. I want to show my kids that it's ok to not be busy all
the time because when we are too busy we lose sight of what's important. God first
and foremost and people. "Never
is a woman so fulfilled as when she chooses to underwhelm her schedule so she
can let God overwhelm her soul."
God
didn’t place us here to do life alone,
"And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works,
not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one
another, and ball the more as you see the Day drawing near."Hebrews 10:24–25
We
love people, you guys know us, we are people persons for sure. I try my hardest
to make sure we keep friendships going and I want my kids to see that as well.
It's important to build strong friendships and connections. I also want them to
be kids, and play in the backyard or their rooms, to ride bikes, and to play with
the dumb dogs (terms of endearment I promise...still bitter about being
outvoted not once but twice). I want them to enjoy just being. I want there to
be little things in our everyday lives that point then back to God. I can do
this for our family by not overwhelming our schedules because that's what
society is telling me to do, or because that's what I feel pressured to do in order to live up to the standards set by these "mommy wars".
If
being on the go works for other people then more power to them, I don't know
how they do it, I applaud them. I can't do it but I know now that it doesn't
make me less of a mom, it just means we all prioritize differently and our
families and kids have different interests and there is absolutely nothing
wrong with that! I was reminded this weekend about my own childhood ,and how
much simpler it used to be, when the kids next door asked my kids if they could
play. So, they played together yard by yard and it was nice to watch an
unscheduled play time, it was kids being kids and forming friendships on their
own. It wasn't planned, it wasn't rushed, it ended when it got dark and there
was no setting up anything else, there was just a "see you next
time". It was simple, and it reminded me that it's in the simplest moments
when you can see the work of God more clearly.
"Remember
the decisions you make determine the schedule you keep. The schedule you keep
determines the life you live. And how you live your life determines how you
spend your soul"